I don’t think there is one person on this earth who could say their life and relationships are not complicated somehow. I’ve woken up feeling tired today and my mood is pretty much neutral.
I know it isn’t just physical exhaustion but it is emotional as well. I was born a sensitive person. Yey. It can either make my life more difficult or it can help me understand myself and others more.
Sometimes, when I have had too many emotional ups and downs and I feel overloaded with complicated feelings, I just want to find the off-switch in the end. Chilling out, unwinding with a funny film or a good book is the remedy for me.
Thinking too much is a big part of it as well especially if you are experiencing a multitude of different feelings with it all. Before you know it, everything has become a huge emotional ‘knot’ in your mind and body. If you don’t nip it in the bud quickly, it becomes an ugly mess.
How can we stay on top of things?
Know your limits:
It is wise to be aware of how much stress you can take before you begin to feel out of control. There are warning signs (such as snapping at people, banging things down hard on tables and slamming doors for instance…time to go for a run…or a long hot soak in the bath…:)
Talk it over:
If something is bothering you, talk to someone about what you’re going through. Stress reduces when you find an outlet for your frustration…talking is a great way to work through difficult feelings. Even if you don’t find a solution, you will feel some much needed and welcome support.
Reduce your to-do list:
Have you taken on too many responsibilities? Is work taking over your entire life? Then, it is time to change things in favour of what you need to be genuinely happy and not simply what others want you to do. Live-up to your own expectations and not that of others…
Ask for help:
Too many people suffer the burden of their load in silence and just carry on feeling the weight of stress on top of them. It isn’t a crime to ask someone to help you out or if they can help you manage everything better. You will not lose face by doing so. Is there a better arrangement you could come to at work in regards to your working hours? Is flexibility possible? You have the power to make your life easier…if you really want to.
Minimise your responsibilities:
If you can find a way to focus on things that you really want to do and still earn the money you need…then you may be a frustrated artist like me! That’s my own personal dilemma. With anything to do with work, it is always about finding the balance. If you can find a comfortable situation between your working and your personal life, you will feel happier knowing that you have more freedom to be you…
And that’s what matters!
© Christina McDonald 2014.